Dating Culture

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 FAMILY RELATIONS 

OCTOBER 23, 2021

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Dating Culture

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Jocelynn Linton



Welcome back everyone! I hope you all had a great week. I am very excited about writing today’s blog because it is a topic that I have always found very fascinating. In today’s world, we are seeing constant change. One of these changes has been the dating culture. Over the past 50 years the definition of dating has drastically transformed. 

Dating used to be a planned activity where you got to know another individual. Usually in a group setting. “The idea of the perfect first date has changed a lot in 50 years. "The date usually happened in a public place, among other teens; there was lots of talking to get to know each other; and if there was any money spent, the guy paid (Greenwald, 2019).” Now days, things are very different. Back then, you had to actually meet someone and talk to them before you could get their number or even ask them out. Today, there are so many ways to connect with people. Online dating, chat rooms and social media. The list is endless. So many platforms where people can put on any face they want, or be anybody that they want to be. 

One question that not many people ask, because they believe it is obvious, is the question of What is dating? Dating is supposed to be something that is done when seeking a potential spouse. The sad thing is that so many people who are dating in today’s world are doing it without marriage in mind. Of course, that does not mean that you should go on every date planning to propose, in fact, please don’t do that. Rather marriage should be the reason you are going on dates. Dating should be fun and enjoyable. It should be an activity that includes the three P’s. Planned, Paid for, Paired off. Dates are supposed to be fun and enjoyable and it does not have to be expensive at all. Paid for merely implies that all the materials, resources that will be required for the date are provided for your date. Planned implies that there is a set activity and time for the date, and no, just watching a movie and or making out does not count. Paired off. This one simply means that during the date you are primarily responsible for the safety and well being of your partner. Sadly a lot of modern dates do not follow this three p system.

My professor talked about the ideal dating model. It goes in this sequential order. Dating—Courtship “Trial”—Proposal—Engagement—Marriage. A lot of people now days are skipping all the important stuff. One of the things that really troubled me was when my professor brought up what has now replaced that model. He affectionately dubbed it the “Date ‘em till ya hate ‘em” approach. As a young adult and student, I have witnessed this countless times. Not only in college, but in high school too. Young people meet (oftentimes online), and then skip straight to all the physical stuff. “Couples” don’t go on real dates anymore. The just make out, cuddle, watch movies and spend literally all their time together. Obviously, this can’t lead to any longevity in the relationship. Even when you’re boyfriend and girlfriend, and husband and wife, you need to keep dating each other. Keep going on planned out, fun dates. And let me emphasize…Price Should not be an excuse! So many of the funnest most memorable dates that I’ve gone on have been either very cheap or even free.

In conclusion, go on dates, have fun! And remember that the object is to gain a friend. Thinking in that mindset will completely change your view on dating and I hope make it much more enjoyable.




Sources: 

Greenwald, M. (2019, March 6). This Is What Dating Looked Like More Than 50 Years Ago. Best Life. 

     Retrieved October 23, 2021, from https://bestlifeonline.com/1950s-dating/ 


Comments

  1. UnknownOctober 30, 2021 at 1:16 PM

    That was a really awesome post! I don't think I had ever put dating in that perspective and I really appreciated it. I like the mindset of "gaining a friend". You want to be friends before you become too much more

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