Marital Intimacy

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 FAMILY RELATIONS 

NOVEMBER 6, 2021

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Marital Intimacy 

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Jocelynn Linton



Welcome back to my blog! I hope all of you have had a wonderful week! I am very excited to talk about today’s topic, because it is something that I am learning more and more about every day. Today’s topic is marital intimacy. This is something that I feel like everyone, whether they’re single, dating or married, can learn more about. Marital intimacy is something that is not talked about very often, and can be considered somewhat of a taboo subject. The world portrays sex and marriage as something completely different from what it actually is. Not only do we need to correctly educate ourselves from reliable sources, but we need to make sure that we are able to openly talk about it in a respectful and correct way. We covered so many interesting things in class this week, that I could go on and on. But not very many people have that much time, so I will try to condense into a few thoughts the overall point I'm trying to get across. 

When you’re married to someone, that person is who you are bonded and connected with. Healthy marital intimacy can only stem from total trust, complete fidelity and good communication. These are things that must be worked on day after day. Marriage doesn’t come easily to anyone who’s doing it right. But the beautiful thing is that you can work on it hand in hand with your spouse. Hardships, when faced together, only make the marriage stronger. Three topics I would like to discuss today are, firstly, the importance of intimacy in our lives, second, discussing fidelity in marriage,and third the dangers of viewing intimacy from a worldly standpoint.

The importance of intimacy. Healthy intimacy between a man and wife is one of the most beautiful gifts that we have been given from God. Marital intimacy is of a divine nature and serves to bring a man and a woman closer together as eternal companions. Humans naturally crave intimate experiences and when those needs are met, we enjoy greater levels of health and happiness. 

Secondly, fidelity. In order to have a healthy and happy, long lasting relationship, complete and total fidelity is required. Sadly, not many people understand this. Google dictionary defines fidelity as “faithfulness to a person, cause, or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support.” Faithfulness. Even if you are not physically being unfaithful to your spouse, that does not mean you are being completely true to them. Thinking about another person lustfuly or watching videos, listening to sonfgs, or participating in conversations at all pertaining to topics of sex, porn or envy of the like, is completely and totally a form of adulatory. One very important thing to understand along with this. When you are married, you need to go to your spouse with your marriage problems. Don’t go to your friends, your relatives, and do not, I repeat, do not turn to social media to rant about your partner. In marriage (and any relationship), communication is key. When you rant to others about your spouse, you are learning to rely on their support and advice rather than that of who you are actually married to. Your marriage problems should be worked and and discussed with the person they are about! If counseling is required, attend together. Complaining to others about your problems will not result in a resolution. Rather, it will, in more cases than not, drive further open the divide between you and your spouse.

Lastly, is why viewing marital intimacy from the world’s viewpoint is so toxic and damaging to a relationship. Intimacy is a sacred and spiritual thing. The world today has done everything in its power to warp and corrupt it to something vile and lustful. Take pornography for example. Porn does nothing but destroy those who view it and participate in it. It’s main purpose is to wreck love and relationships. It is so so important that we seek our questions from correct and true places. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints website has so many amazing articles and resources to explain and shed light on some of these topics. 

I hope I have answered some questions that y’all had. If I struck on something you’d like to discuss or if you have any other questions regarding the matter, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me through the comments.

Have a great rest of your weekend!


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